i may be away, but never gone.

Have you ever watched the news, rode the bus and looked out the window, or walked down the street and looked at other people? Not just look and acknowledge they're there, but look in a way that you're examining every aspect of who they are from your point of view. A really horrible thing to do is to look down on others. I was on the bus headed home when I watched the news and saw the situation other people were in after the storm, flooded or not. It looked so depressing to see so much suffering and despair from other people. Just because people are in a more unfortunate situation compared to us doesn't mean they're any lesser of a human being than we are.

It didn't look nice. At all. Some help the less fortunate without thinking twice, and some don't even look twice and act like nothing's happening. There's a fine line between generous and human doormat slash pushover. Some people are just really that generous and sympathetic towards others, it's something that others take advantage of. Have you ever thought that some people are just that sympathetic and giving to people who don't have what they have? Some people don't like it.

It's wrong to feel bad or feel pity for another because their issues and dilemmas are not supposed to be yours to deal with, it's theirs... But that doesn't mean you only help people out of pity. There shouldn't be a reason behind why you give and help others, you should just do so as an act of selflessness. We're all naturally selfish, there are those times I know. It's just that because of that, some people mistake most acts of generosity and selflessness for acts of pity or being condescended.

Everyone's got their own sense of pride, after all, one of the hardest things for us human beings to do is admit we need help. I'll admit, I'd rather do things myself and make mistakes along the way, than asking another for help and getting it done right the first time. I mean, where's the lesson there? In my own honest opinion, you just don't get anything productive out of help except for getting the easy way out of things.

I don't know where this post is going. Maybe it's just me venting my frustrations to be heard, or just a compilation of my point of view on certain things, or just random babbling. I feel sorry for the people who are suffering because of the flood, I feel annoyed at the people who just don't care about the unfortunate, and I'm angry at myself, feeling as if I'm just not doing anything productive even though I know I am doing so one way or the other.

It just feels so empty sometimes, y'know?

negativity is an understatement.

Be warned. This isn't one of my usual blog posts. I'm just not in the mood to fuck around right now. If you're not interested at me ranting about negativity and venting out frustration and anger, do not read this. I will post something 'worthwhile' after this... when I feel like it. Whatever.

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To know who your friends are, who your REAL friends are... That's not something easy or simply put. A friend is a person who is on good terms with another, whereas in medieval times a friend is someone who is not considered a hostile threat to another. But right now in our time, a friend is a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard, one who gives assistance and different virtues such as trust, empathy, understanding, compassion and whatnot.

There are many different kinds of friends. Some who take advantage, some who pretend, and some who manipulate. To find a friend who is genuine, however, is a long shot among them all. When you do find one that fits that bit alone, do not take them for granted. Be proud of the friends you've got, be it an army of them or a just a handful, each one is special you cannot put a price on. Young or old, whatever difference, a friend is a friend.

Many just don't understand that. Most take friends for granted, some even for their own benefit alone thinking only for themselves. The bullshit in that situation is that some acknowledge it and just let it be anyway since some are just really lonely, desperate for attention, or are just really fucking forgiving.

I'm one of them but I know when to put my foot down when things go too far. It just disappoints me far too much to know that there are people in the world I consider friends who have this characteristic. On the up side, I still look at them positively, no matter how bad I know then can steer me wrong. Everyone deserves a second chance.

There are times when things do go too far, and when that happens, I'm not one to forgive. I forgive but I don't forget, and when the time comes that you go too far, I don't give a fuck if you jump off a bridge, I'll only forgive you when I see fit. Everything has consequences, I know that too well. Even after all that, there are still some situations for a stubborn asshole like me to not know exactly when it has become too much.

A friend is a friend, and everyone should know just how to treat something that valuable.

Although everyone deserves a second chance, some just don't deserve it yet.

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No matter what stunt you pull, a lie is a lie. Like Merlin said: "When a man lies, he murders a part of the world". However you want to put it, a lie will always manage to find a way out. When you lie and another finds out, no matter how hard you try to fix it, the damage would have already been done. You cannot undo a lie. You're doomed from the start, thus you just absolutely under no circumstances cannot end it right once it's started wrong.

Worst of all, if you can lie to a certain person, you sure as hell can do it again to them.

heaven can wait.

patience [ˈpeɪʃəns]

n

1. Tolerant and even-tempered perseverance.

2. The capacity for calmly enduring pain, trying situations, etc.

Forbearance, tolerance, composure... You have to admit, not everyone has patience in the world. One would demand things to just fall into his/her lap as soon as they need a specific thing while another would rather wait it out and "keep their cool".

There are people who don't know how to be patient, whereas they would blow their minds with anger if something took too long or if a certain situation didn't go their way. A good example would be some customers in a restaurant.

Oh yes! There you are waiting in line, just waiting to reach the counter so that a restaurant employee could take your order. People tend to fiddle with themselves, or try to distract themselves with their surroundings. Impatient people, however, are just plain assholes. There are people who try to skip the line and not wait their turn, some get shit pissed if the order takes too long to prepare.

Haven't we all experienced that? Minority of people have little to no patience. Too little of that is usually a really bad thing to most. That's too bad, because too much patience is actually quite a bad thing as well just like how too much of anything is bad for anybody.

Just think of this scenario. What if you were the person behind this REALLY patient son of a bitch who ordered a small takeout of food that is taking longer than usual in that restaurant? Assertive beings would realize that the order is obviously taking far too long than it's supposed to, but REALLY patient people wouldn't care.

They'd just stand and wait anyway, hoping and assuming that things will come in due time so there's no need to rush. Another scenario could be like my dilemma a few posts ago (Read "we'll be a dream" if you have no idea what I'm talking about). The test of your tolerance and patience could be your downfall.

Oh and of course, there's also that instance where if you don't have enough patience for something, you'd give up before you even get there or get it. Don't give up too soon, a little while longer wouldn't hurt if you've already waited quite a bit. Also, don't give up too late, realize when too much is too much that you just really have to get over it and move on.

Point of the post: Have patience, just not too much. You should know when enough is enough and be able to put a limit on certain things and situations. Nobody wants to deal with an impatient person, nor does anyone want to deal with someone too "loose".

I learned this a while ago. Take it from me, I'm just one hell of a patient asshole.